Who Are You, when You don't wear a Mask?
“Let's Create the Self YOU Want to Be!!!.” - Niki Jones
Everyone gets a different You.
We all have different sides or aspects to us that we only share in specific situations. We don’t want our Customer Service or Professional Side to interfere with our Time Off to Play Side. There are So Many different ways that we interact with the world around us, and just as many Masks that we wear…
Can you tell the difference between the Masks/Sides/Aspects and when you take them off?
So. When you get time to yourself… To Be YOU in Your Fullest… Who Are You?
More Importantly…. How Do You Want To Be?
Sometimes we don’t know. We get stuck in Survival Mode and it really feels like that part of us can Never Relax… We Lose our Sense of Self. Who We Were before the events that put us into Survival Mode happened. Some, never even really get to Have a Sense of Self at all… Life Began IN Survival.
It can be SO Scary to learn these parts of ourselves. To face them. To HEAL Them. This can put our Nervous Systems in Dysregulation and send us into feeling like we are back in that moment. Back in Survival. Back in the Events that threaten everything we have built now. It can feel like we are sabotaging our own Healing Journey. Our Growth.
That is Not True…
Healing is a lot of facing our Feels and different Masks… It is often How We Process our issues, emotions, triggers, etc… The old adage, we have to Feel to Heal… It SUCKS that it is True for so many(or all) of us. It is in the Moving Through those feelings, Regulating ourselves to Feel Safe and Secure where we are now… where the Healing Happens. It just doesn’t always feel like it is helping because we feel like we are back sliding into the old way of being.
But…When we do the work…
We are Really showing our Body, our Mind, our Subconscious that we are Safe and Able to Process these things in a Safe Way. To Heal.
Safe enough to drop the Mask of Survivor.
Safe enough to drop the Mask of Perfectionist.
Safe enough to drop the Mask of People Pleasing.
Safe enough to drop the Mask of Helper.
Safe enough to drop the Mask of Pick Me.
Safe enough to drop the Mask of Loner.
Safe enough to drop the Mask of I Will Do It All On My Own or it won’t get done.
And so many More!!!!
What Helps?
Counseling, Therapy, Coaching, Spirituality and even Self Help books are all tools to help Heal these parts of ourselves. There are So many different modalities to take advantage of! I combine many of mine. I do a Lot of Shamanic style Journeying and Energy Healing to aid myself and others. When I am with my own Counselor, she helps me with talking and a technique called Brain Spotting. I add in my own Energy Healing to all the sessions with her to help me heal at multiple levels. I also get similar impressions and images like my Shamanic Journeying when we are doing the Brain Spotting. I love that she just accepts whatever my subconscious is bringing up and goes with it. Tells me to get curious about that sensation or feeling. And we process it together. Our methods may be different and yet, there are So Many Similarities that make our work together flow with ease.
So, find people and methods that work for You. Experiment and keep Telling Yourself that You Are Worth Healing! You Are Safe. You Are Worth ALL of the Effort Healing takes!
Nurture Yourself and your Nervous System. Give Yourself the Healthy things You Need to feel Safe and even Comfy. IT ALL HELPS!!! It reinforces to us AT Every Level of Us that We Are Worth It!!!
All of this helps us drop the Masks and become aware of WHO WE ARE at our CORE. This in turn, gives us insight into what we Need at any given time. Then we can Give Ourself Permission to Provide what we Need at that time. This is a way for us to show Ourself Love and Acceptance. Those are 2 things that most of us Sorely Need at all ages. Even if our pride or ego says we don’t need to be accepted. (by the majority, we don’t….) However, we Do Want to be Accepted by those we choose and love. That is a NORMAL Human Want. Anyone who make us feel otherwise has their own issues to work through.
How I Am Helping...
I will be doing a series of Energy Healing Videos to help us Identify, Process and Heal several different Masks. So We Can Get to the Core of Who We Are and Feel Safe There!!!
I Love You. I Support You.
Always Remember,
You Are Loved,
You Are Valid,
You Are Accepted.
Love,
PS. When I am done with the series, it will get posted on my site as a Free Course so all tools will be available to you at any time.
Interested in more Healing Options?
